Mindblown: a blog about philosophy.

  • > You married the Wrong Person.

      You totally married the wrong person. We all did… … and here’s why.   We are social animals; so if you are human and have a heartbeat, you are will absolutely live through many versions of yourself based on your experiences shaping you over the course of a marriage. The person you are and […]

  • >I take it back…

    >I take it back…

    You told your partner “it” was okay… but it wasn’t… not really… You know what I’m talking about. The thing you just don’t talk about. Maybe you knew it then; you definitely know it now. But you just don’t know how to take it back. You feel trapped, by “it”. My esteemed colleague, Esther Perel, […]

  • >Strapped In

    >Strapped In

    Balancing both feet on a thin wire strung high up between two trees, even my pinkie fingers are shaking. I’ve gotten almost to the middle without looking down.. . But when I see how far I could fall, I see only certain death coming if I continue. I feel only the fear. I freeze. Static […]

  • >Why VDay is Hilarious…

    >Why VDay is Hilarious…

    Okay, it is not that I hate V-Day; I do take issue with a culturally integrated event in which folks are encouraged to save up all of their appreciation of each other for one day of ‘sorry I’ve been such a d-bag the other 364′. And apparently there’s not enough alcohol, sugar and flowers to […]

  • >Play.


    When was the last time you played? I mean… Just let your body GO? It’s Sunday night, way past bedtime, and my daughter has come out of bed for the third time. We’ve had a fantastic weekend, and I think she just doesn’t want it to end. I know the feeling. She has that smile […]

  • > Why your wife looks like a Sabre-Tooth Tiger

    > Why your wife looks like a Sabre-Tooth Tiger

    Q: “Sometimes I feel SO ready to talk to my wife but one look from her, and I shut down. I really want to tell her, but I just can’t…” –”Don” A: Don, you’re perfectly describing the desire to be known, at the same moment you’re terrified to be ‘found out’. Which makes you human. […]

  • >Simple. But not Easy.

    >Simple. But not Easy.

    Maybe you know that I spin. What you may not know is that spinning has carried me through some really tough stuff. At times, I’ve felt safest when I was alone on the bike; and all that mattered was how my legs powered up and my body surged forward – looking for the next race. […]

  • >Guaranteed relationship improvement #DoOneThing

    Yeah, you. Put it down. Your life, your LOVE is waiting!

  • >RIP Robin

    >RIP Robin

    I met Robin Williams at an In-n-Out Burger, many years ago. He truly seemed like a dad out for a bike ride with his kids on a gorgeous Northern California day. Somewhere there’s a picture of my brother standing with him in that parking lot, taken with an actual camera, in the days before life […]

  • >How to LIKE your partner (again)…

    Along the lines of last week’s post about actually liking your partner, you may ask – how do I do that? Has it been that long? The better predictor of relationship satisfaction is not how well your partner supports you in tough times, but rather, how you share the good times together! So step 1 […]

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