Archives for May 2011

>Memorial Day Musing…

As we remember those who have sacrificed for our country, it occurs to me that it’s also a great time for all of us to consider how we are using our own energy… Do you use your powers for good?!

Remember the scene in ‘Good Will Hunting’, in which he’s being offered a government job that will give him access to some really exciting work? Will thoughtfully responds with concern about how his work will be used, maybe to blow up …

>Life is interesting enough…

As Maria Shriver prophecied years ago, life with Ahh-nold would be “…not an easy life, but an interesting one…” My question as her therapist (which I am clearly not, nor have I ever knowingly treated anyone related to either family) would be, “Interesting, how?” As in, ‘good interesting’ or ‘unstable interesting’ (i.e. nauseating). Of course, you never, ever, EVER know what’s really going on in anyone else’s relationship, so who are we to speculate?!

That said, life is its own …

>Explain yourself…

Someone handed me a great article about how therapy works, to help us explain how and why we do what we do…

Click below to check it out –

“Getting to Know Me” (link)

Enjoy, and please feel free to pass on to anyone else who might be curious!

>90%?! Really?!

You’re an intelligent creature who’s fully functional in most of your life, but you keep screwing up in your most important relationships… Why, why why do you think you do that?!

Some time ago, I wrote a post about the 90/10 rule, and since then, I’ve heard a fair amount of apprehension, or downright disbelief, about the weight our past experience carries. I get it, but unless you have a better reason about why you keep acting …

>Happy Mother’s (in-Law) Day…

Have you had “your day” absolutely ruined by a Mother-in-Law?! I think it’s the complaint I hear most often after a day like “Mother’s Day”…
That’s why I absolutely loved this brief post by a MiL who brings her therapist-ness to her new role. She’s never been a Mother-in-Law before AND she never really had one, so she asks for help from her new Daughter-in-Law and those who love her, in figuring out how to play a supportive role in …

>Stupid Fights and Brownie Sundaes

If your goal is a healthy relationship, then why do you do stupid stuff like call your partner names, curse at them, or tell them in however many words how ‘tired you are of their sh*t’?!

It may be totally true that you have less and less time/energy to devote to your relationship… but it’s also totally true that you are in control of how you treat each other in the time you do have together. Think about …