Archives for June 2011

>Excitement? Arousal?

I’m trying to think of good therapist-y words that will convey to you what I’m feeling about what I’m doing this week. “Therapist Porn” comes close, but the resulting spam is just not worth it…

I’m in NYC, attending four days of intense training with the founder of Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Dr. Sue Johnson, and soooooo loving it. Why does traditional couples therapy fall short?! Maybe it’s because at best, it teaches people to communicate more effectively, although the thing …

>What did you expect?!?!

So you expect your partner to be more….. You fill in the blank- more sensitive? More helpful? More understanding? Why? Just because you want them to be?

People are constantly being disappointed by their partners because they have expectations based on an idea rather than the reality of the other person, and this is where they get into trouble. For example, your partner is late coming home from work again, so you are stuck either twiddling your thumbs, or once again …

>”I’m sorry” isn’t enough…

How many times do you have to hear ‘I’m sorry,’ before you stop believing it?! How many times are you going to make the same mistake, or allow your partner to continue hurting you, before you insist that something be done?! Being faithful is not just about staying married, it’s about believing in the best version of your partner, and supporting them in becoming that person, every single day. Sometimes, that means insisting on change, when something is clearly …

>Don’t be a Weiner!

I’m not surprised by the most recent wave of ‘Powerful Men Behaving Badly’, given the daily opportunity, in addition to the typical features of a ‘political personality’ (i.e. thrill seeking and narcissism). What really surprises me is that these guys do not expect to be caught. They fully expect to get away with it, and in that, they are no different than many folks out there, men and women, who are hitting sites like Facebook and Twitter for all …