Archives for November 2011

>What we fight about…

The big three. Sex. Kids. Money.

Let’s talk about SEX, baby…it’s a big one – especially once you have kids and fall off that gravy train, (assuming that you were getting enough before…) There is much to be said about stress and exhaustion, but we just feel like something’s wrong if we’re not ‘doing it’. Generally speaking, women need to feel connected to have sex, and men have sex to feel connected. Most couples balk at the idea of “scheduling” …

>Thanks for taking out the garbage, you sexy beast…

Thanksgiving. A day to gorge to the point of grossing out even yourself, and plod into ‘the other room’ to veg/pass out with football… Um, yeah… how exactly does that reflect our gratitude? This got me thinking about how much great stuff we do every day, that goes unnoticed. Folks come into my office complaining of feeling under- or un-appreciated for all that they do – They’ll paint their partner as a blundering ogre or an entitled …

>The ring didn’t mean a thiiiiiing…

The topic of interest seems to be Kim Kardashian and whether I think it was a “real” marriage or not; Why did she return the ring?… Why did I waste four hours of my life on that stupid ‘E’ Channel special event?!?!?

Despite being shot from five different camera angles, only two people in the world know what really happened, and the story from either side likely sounds very different. Kim’s not alone in that she’s divorced (ok, twice) and …

>Not your fault, Will Hunting…

He shifts in his chair, nervously and talks about how his wife refuses to come to therapy; he “invited” her by shouting at her that ‘she’s the one’ who needs therapy, and if she didn’t show up, the marriage was over. He’s taking her absence today as a sign that she doesn’t care and the marriage has ended. While painful, it’s not surprising that they’re communicating with smoke signals from the safety of their separate mountains… The two of them …