Archives for December 2011

>Live without Regret…

We have all known the big “R”, and we know that it doesn’t feel good.

As we review the past year, and look to 2012 as the year of new beginnings, this is a natural time to take stock.

Here are some words of wisdom (is ‘warning’ a better word?!) from those who have lived much, much longer than many of us.

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected …

>Digging through crap that doesn’t work…

It’s like going through your closet and deciding what to keep or toss. Bad habits and dysfunctional behavior are like the skinny jeans that you just have a really hard time getting rid of, even though they clearly do not fit. So interesting, that we can know for a fact that something we do really doesn’t work for us anymore, yet we keep going back to that behavior.

So when someone said to me, ‘I want to CHOOSE …

>You’re acting like a two-year-old!!!

OMG, you are about to rip your hair out – you HAVE a two-year-old, or maybe you’ve RAISED your two-year-olds, you do NOT need your partner behaving like one, too! More importantly, when do YOU get to have YOUR meltdown? (i.e., you’re freaking out, too, you’re just holding it down as best you can…)

Here’s the most amazing thing I learned this week – The part of our brain that regulates attachment never matures

Really?

Really. Apparently, …

>Surviving Your Family at the Holidays…

So you’re embarking on the holiday season… as you desperately refill that Valium prescription, here are a few other ideas to help you manage your family during this time, so that you can keep right on LOVING them!!!

We all have certain ideas about how we’d like our family members to think and behave; but if we expect them to act accordingly, we’ll constantly be disappointed. Remember this: the best predictor of future behavior (without intervention)is past behavior. That means …