Archives for March 2012

>Find your (im)Perfect Zen…

Of course you are insane… ly busy. Life can feel like 24/7 struggle to get 42 things done in the next 5 minutes; it’s incredibly hard to turn off. Last week, I actually stuck my head in the freezer in an effort to stop my brain from spinning. (It doesn’t work, by the way.)

Many of us are living in crisis mode, which is only sustainable during a… crisis; for a limited period of time. To conserve energy, our body instinctively crashes when the crisis wanes. We need to …

>”I don’t know what to talk about today…”

Whenever someone flops down on my couch and utters these words, I know it’s going to be a good one. Because it means that all the “stuff” is either quiet or manageable, and we’ll have more time to develop new understanding of yourself, and/or your partner, and to build new ‘muscle memory’ for how to be in the world, as yourself, or with each other. These are the good conversations, however painful they may be at first.

These are the conversations …

>Therapy at the ‘Jersey Shore’…

As a therapist, I’m good – but as a person, I’m screwed. I can’t just relax and watch an episode of ‘Jersey Shore… 

I’m watching the DVR’ed first episodes, (you know my obsession with reality TV) and I’m finally making sense of Ronnie and Sam! I watch them meet for the first time, and quickly become smitten with each other in a way they’ve never felt before; beyond ‘smooshing’, they want each other, and seem comforted by their closeness. We …

>Messing with your therapist

I got so many great reactions to last week’s post about ‘bad couples therapy’ , and someone sent me this hilarious clip of the therapists in ‘Good Will Hunting’ (see below)…

As a therapist who actively seeks out other competent therapists to collaborate with and refer to, I am convinced that there is more good therapy than bad going on out there, and that the horror stories are the exception rather than the norm.

That said, the horror stories make …