Archives for May 2012

>I think I wanna marry you…

Wanna smile? HARD?! Wanna cry – maybe, a little?

Watch this. I cried when you first actually SEE the future groom – totally worth waiting for!

>Divorce Protection…

You didn’t know what you were getting into – I mean, how would you have even known that you should talk about it, until you’d gone three rounds of progressively louder shrieking with your new spouse over where you were going to spend Thanksgiving?! (…obviously it’s at Nonna’s house – it’s always at Nonna’s house!!!) When I do premarital counseling, we talk about everything from concrete stuff like living arrangements to the elusive “communication” category. It’s an incredibly effective …

>…Bittersweet Symphony

Something that occasionally enters my head as a client is speaking is the line from a song: “I need to hear some sounds that recognize the pain in me, yeah…*

The thing that makes our pain so much more unbearable is the sense that we are alone with it. Very few of us are actually alone; most of us don’t know how to reach out for support, or those around us don’t know how to respond in a way …

>Just tell me…am I Needy?!

“Tell me you like spending time with me,” she says, looking over her shoulder; something in her expression says she knows, but still really needs to hear it*. And of course she does; we all do. What’s happening in our lives directly affects how we feel about each other, and ourselves. As social creatures, we have amazing capacity for both stability and change, depending on the quality of our experience.