Author: maggie
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>Why Marriage in movies sucks royally
Just before my wedding, I remember being gripped with the fear of taking on the title of “wife”… Like, today, I’m your girlfriend – we have fun together and really like each other, but the second I become your wife, I’m going to inexplicably transform into a nagging, needy mess that you can’t stand to…
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>Tears. Good ones. Laughing Tears.
Top 10 Crazy Things said when up late with Kids… (click link) Though years go by in a heartbeat, some of these nights Will. Not. End.
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>How to Suceed at Marriage Therapy (?)
The research says that by the time most couples get into therapy, it’s about six years later than they should have come; and there are all kinds of reasons for that. Bygones. Once you get on that path, though – once you are ready to make that call, what should you consider? How should you…
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>New (and not so new) Daddies: How to survive your Wife
I’m a working Mom, I see it from both sides; I’m just as often the one who comes home to a messy house with no dinner, as I am the one who gets so caught up in helping to create that same mess, that I completely forget to make the aforementioned dinner… …to say nothing…
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>It’s not about the toothpaste…
Whenever I stretch above my head, my shoulders instantly move down and let the big muscles in my back propel my arms upward; my fingers instinctively form two cups and swoosh down, pushing the air past me. It’s muscle memory – it’s old; it comes from years of competitively swimming butterfly (that’s right, y’heard me…).…
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>Love me like a dog…
Dogs love fearlessly. Show them a smile and friendly tone, and they’ll show you their belly. Loving dogs is easy; it’s loving people that gets complicated. We all have ‘baggage’, that’s not what makes it hard to love and be loved. What makes it hard is alllllll things we do that prevent us from really…
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>Telling the truth about marriage…
When I heard Ben Affleck’s Oscar speech, all I could think was, “OMG, he’s telling the TRUTH!” Then I thought, ‘ohhh, he’s going to get slayed for it.’ Because no one tells the truth about marriage; ‘It takes work’ has become a cliché, to be thrown around randomly; just try saying it at your next…
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>”My apologies”
Many years ago, I learned the phrase, “My apologies,” from a colleague who seemed to know that the sincerity of her words are more important than any explanation she could offer. Sooooooooooo….. My apologies for putting the blog on hold for the past 2 months. Many of you have asked about it, and missed it…
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>When there are no words…
Around now, I generally write about getting through the holidays without throwing a can of Who-hash at your mother-in-law’s head… But in light of what happened in Newtown, such a rant seems misguided. I can’t even speak as a therapist about this – the Mother Bear inside me is growling and protective. I draw my…
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>Comfort in the crazy…
As a child, who held you when you cried? Did it feel safe, comforting? Or was there something missing? I believe that most parents are doing the best they can, with the resources they have. That said, it’s fairly common for folks to report that as kids, they weren’t held in a way that felt…