Category: Brokenhearted

  • >Why VDay is Hilarious…

    >Why VDay is Hilarious…

    Okay, it is not that I hate V-Day; I do take issue with a culturally integrated event in which folks are encouraged to save up all of their appreciation of each other for one day of ‘sorry I’ve been such a d-bag the other 364′. And apparently there’s not enough alcohol, sugar and flowers to…

  • > Why your wife looks like a Sabre-Tooth Tiger

    > Why your wife looks like a Sabre-Tooth Tiger

    Q: “Sometimes I feel SO ready to talk to my wife but one look from her, and I shut down. I really want to tell her, but I just can’t…” –”Don” A: Don, you’re perfectly describing the desire to be known, at the same moment you’re terrified to be ‘found out’. Which makes you human.…

  • >RIP Robin

    >RIP Robin

    I met Robin Williams at an In-n-Out Burger, many years ago. He truly seemed like a dad out for a bike ride with his kids on a gorgeous Northern California day. Somewhere there’s a picture of my brother standing with him in that parking lot, taken with an actual camera, in the days before life…

  • >Bob Dylan at spin class

    >Bob Dylan at spin class

    I’ve heard Bob Dylan talk about ‘giving away a little piece of himself’ every time he releases music; giving us the sense that despite being globally accepted and even idealized, there are still places inside himself that feel risky to share. There are still (presumably) guarded paths that go directly to his heart; he ‘hurts…

  • >Not your fault, Will Hunting…

    >Not your fault, Will Hunting…

    He shifts in his chair, nervously and talks about how his wife refuses to come to therapy; he “invited” her by shouting at her that ‘she’s the one’ who needs therapy, and if she didn’t show up, the marriage was over. He’s taking her absence today as a sign that she doesn’t care and the…

  • >I miss you, and you’re right here…

    >I miss you, and you’re right here…

    So you love your wife, but calling her nasty names doesn’t quite convey that emotion, hmm? Your husband is completely the worst human being on the planet, but you can’t imagine life without him, right? What could possibly be going wrong?!?! The fact is, you can be incredibly effective at work, and enjoy fruitful friendships,…

  • >Excitement? Arousal?

    I’m trying to think of good therapist-y words that will convey to you what I’m feeling about what I’m doing this week. “Therapist Porn” comes close, but the resulting spam is just not worth it… I’m in NYC, attending four days of intense training with the founder of Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Dr. Sue Johnson, and soooooo…

  • >”I’m sorry” isn’t enough…

    >”I’m sorry” isn’t enough…

    How many times do you have to hear ‘I’m sorry,’ before you stop believing it?! How many times are you going to make the same mistake, or allow your partner to continue hurting you, before you insist that something be done?! Being faithful is not just about staying married, it’s about believing in the best…

  • >Don’t be a Weiner!

    >Don’t be a Weiner!

    I’m not surprised by the most recent wave of ‘Powerful Men Behaving Badly’, given the daily opportunity, in addition to the typical features of a ‘political personality’ (i.e. thrill seeking and narcissism). What really surprises me is that these guys do not expect to be caught. They fully expect to get away with it, and…

  • >Getting good at heartbreak

    >Getting good at heartbreak

    Here’s the hard truth – there is no love that won’t leave you heartbroken and wanting for more, at times*; so why not get good at it? Heartbreaks come in all shapes and sizes, like having your partner fall short of your expectations; or standing by helplessly as your grown (or growing) child rejects your…