> You married the Wrong Person.

 

You totally married the wrong person.

We all did…

… and here’s why.

 

We are social animals; so if you are human and have a heartbeat, you are will absolutely live through many versions of yourself based on your experiences shaping you over the course of a marriage. The person you are and the one who sleeps beside you, are literally different people than you were at “I do”. So how could the ‘right’ person, right now, still be that …

>I take it back…

You told your partner “it” was okay…

but it wasn’t…

not really

You know what I’m talking about.

The thing you just don’t talk about.

Maybe you knew it then; you definitely know it now.

But you just don’t know how to take it back.

You feel trapped, by “it”.

My esteemed colleague, Esther Perel, has written so eloquently about sexual honesty.

Please find the article here.

I hope you love it too.

 

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>Why Marriage in movies sucks royally

Just before my wedding, I remember being gripped with the fear of taking on the title of “wife”…

Like, today, I’m your girlfriend – we have fun together and really like each other, but the second I become your wife, I’m going to inexplicably transform into a nagging, needy mess that you can’t stand to come home to.

I don’t know from where this image came; reality TV? Popular culture? Maybe, according to Seth Rogan, all around funny guy, and apparently, guy …

>New (and not so new) Daddies: How to survive your Wife

I’m a working Mom, I see it from both sides; I’m just as often the one who comes home to a messy house with no dinner, as I am the one who gets so caught up in helping to create that same mess, that I completely forget to make the aforementioned dinner…

…to say nothing of my professional experience empathizing with both sides of that coin…

If any of this sounds remotely familiar, you gotta read this post on …

>Telling the truth about marriage…

When I heard Ben Affleck’s Oscar speech, all I could think was, “OMG, he’s telling the TRUTH!” Then I thought, ‘ohhh, he’s going to get slayed for it.’

Because no one tells the truth about marriage; ‘It takes work’ has become a cliché, to be thrown around randomly; just try saying it at your next dinner party, if you want to observe an awkward silence. It’s definitely not something that people actually talk about, certainly not on live …

>Can we fall back in love?

Remember when you first met your partner and suddenly started blowing off friends, calling in sick to work – generally falling off the radar? Remember??? 

By the time you realized how insufferable they could be, you already needed them; badly. You may have already been committed; engaged or married, when you stood in your newly-leased kitchen, holding the sweaty socks that he left lying in the middle of the floor (again) and wondering for the first time, ‘WTF did I …

>The Other ‘Morning After’

You got married (hopefully) because you took time to learn about each other and found something special there. Did you really expect to wake up as the same people every day forever?!

The problem is that no one talks about what it’s really like to be married; no one talks about what happens the morning after you ride off on that white horse into the sunset… So of course you worry that there’s something wrong with you when your Sleeping Beauty starts complaining constantly; …

>”Marriage is a f***ing Marathon…”*

My husband used to do triathlons; he would swim, then bike, then run, as I quietly analyzed what sort of mental disorder would make him actually want to do all of that.

It wasn’t the actual competition, but the preparation that most intrigued me. As much as physical training, you had to have a plan – How will I support my body to endure what my heart most wishes to do?! This usually involved some personal combination of hydration, salt tablets, …

>My computer and your marriage MAY have this in common…

My laptop is dying a slow, painful death; I’m completely miserable, yet in utter denial about the severity of the problem… I’m also dismayed at the idea of spending thousands of dollars on a new one, although I know that it will inevitably make my life easier – it’s just a question of how long I want to suffer before taking the plunge. It’s kind of like making the decision to enter therapy after months, maybe years, of …

>This should piss you off…

Men feel awful for not financially ‘providing’ in a down economy, and women despair over damage to their family from often unexpected changes, (generally speaking.) Rather than looking at how their “jobs” in the relationship might change in order to fit new situations, couples plow forward, with the idea that men should be the primary provider and women should be responsible for harmony in the home. Both tend to shut down in their own way …