Category: Sex

  • >I take it back…

    >I take it back…

    You told your partner “it” was okay… but it wasn’t… not really… You know what I’m talking about. The thing you just don’t talk about. Maybe you knew it then; you definitely know it now. But you just don’t know how to take it back. You feel trapped, by “it”. My esteemed colleague, Esther Perel,…

  • >Play.

    >Play.

    When was the last time you played? I mean… Just let your body GO? It’s Sunday night, way past bedtime, and my daughter has come out of bed for the third time. We’ve had a fantastic weekend, and I think she just doesn’t want it to end. I know the feeling. She has that smile…

  • >Loving like cats and dogs…

    >Loving like cats and dogs…

    He loves her like a dog – he jumps on her when she gets home, and will not. let. go. until a sufficient amount of head-patting/scruff rubbing has commenced. If she’s too tired, he nips at her or barks sharply, demanding attention, until she snaps back or ultimately closes the door on him. She is…

  • > Cheating in Yoga Pants…

    > Cheating in Yoga Pants…

    At the 2012 EFT Summit this past weekend, I’m listening to a presentation of cutting-edge research on why people ‘cheat’ on their partner, and all I can think is, ‘Where do they find the time?!’  As the full-time working mom, I get home too tired to answer the phone most nights; I have my hands…

  • >Have better sex than ‘Top Gun’…

    >Have better sex than ‘Top Gun’…

    When I think of sex scenes, the first to pop into my mind is from ‘Top Gun’; with white curtains billowing in the breeze, an 80’s love ballad playing… you know the one. Yes, you do; stop lying. Even though Maverick and Charlie barely know each other, they seem to just… know exactly where… and…

  • >What we fight about…

    >What we fight about…

    The big three. Sex. Kids. Money. Let’s talk about SEX, baby…it’s a big one – especially once you have kids and fall off that gravy train, (assuming that you were getting enough before…) There is much to be said about stress and exhaustion, but we just feel like something’s wrong if we’re not ‘doing it’.…

  • >Mars and Venus collide…

    >Mars and Venus collide…

    Sex. You want it, they don’t. They want it, but you don’t. This is one that comes up for couples all. the. time. There are a few things that could be happening, but I want to talk about a really likely one- Different Strategies. Men want to have sex to feel emotionally connected to their…

  • >Excitement? Arousal?

    I’m trying to think of good therapist-y words that will convey to you what I’m feeling about what I’m doing this week. “Therapist Porn” comes close, but the resulting spam is just not worth it… I’m in NYC, attending four days of intense training with the founder of Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Dr. Sue Johnson, and soooooo…

  • >Life is interesting enough…

    >Life is interesting enough…

    As Maria Shriver prophecied years ago, life with Ahh-nold would be “…not an easy life, but an interesting one…” My question as her therapist (which I am clearly not, nor have I ever knowingly treated anyone related to either family) would be, “Interesting, how?” As in, ‘good interesting’ or ‘unstable interesting’ (i.e. nauseating). Of course,…

  • >V-Day ticks me off

    >V-Day ticks me off

    It’s not the commercialization of a contrived holiday, nor is it the idea that you must be coupled to have worth. The biggest thing wrong with V-day is the idea that there is just the one day of expression for how much we care about each other. I’d bet that the collective disappointment most people…