>Why Marriage in movies sucks royally

Just before my wedding, I remember being gripped with the fear of taking on the title of “wife”…

Like, today, I’m your girlfriend – we have fun together and really like each other, but the second I become your wife, I’m going to inexplicably transform into a nagging, needy mess that you can’t stand to come home to.

I don’t know from where this image came; reality TV? Popular culture? Maybe, according to Seth Rogan, all around funny guy, and apparently, guy …

>Tears. Good ones. Laughing Tears.

Top 10 Crazy Things
said when up late with Kids…

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Though years go by in a heartbeat, some of these nights Will. Not. End.

>How to Suceed at Marriage Therapy (?)

The research says that by the time most couples get into therapy, it’s about six years later than they should have come; and there are all kinds of reasons for that. Bygones.

Once you get on that path, though – once you are ready to make that call, what should you consider? How should you approach it? I love this HuffPost blog about ‘How to Succeed at Marriage Therapy’

I would …

>New (and not so new) Daddies: How to survive your Wife

I’m a working Mom, I see it from both sides; I’m just as often the one who comes home to a messy house with no dinner, as I am the one who gets so caught up in helping to create that same mess, that I completely forget to make the aforementioned dinner…

…to say nothing of my professional experience empathizing with both sides of that coin…

If any of this sounds remotely familiar, you gotta read this post on …

>It’s not about the toothpaste…

Whenever I stretch above my head, my shoulders instantly move down and let the big muscles in my back propel my arms upward; my fingers instinctively form two cups and swoosh down, pushing the air past me. It’s muscle memory – it’s old; it comes from years of competitively swimming butterfly (that’s right, y’heard me…). Even though I haven’t swum seriously for 20 years, my body still knows exactly¬†what to do when tasked with anything that even …

>Love me like a dog…

Dogs love fearlessly. Show them a smile and friendly tone, and they’ll show you their belly. Loving dogs is easy; it’s loving people that gets complicated.

We all have ‘baggage’, that’s not what makes it hard to love and be loved. What makes it hard is alllllll things we do that prevent us from really being seen. Over time, we raise a wall to protect ourselves from getting hurt. We add bricks to the wall when …

>Telling the truth about marriage…

When I heard Ben Affleck’s Oscar speech, all I could think was, “OMG, he’s telling the TRUTH!” Then I thought, ‘ohhh, he’s going to get slayed for it.’

Because no one tells the truth about marriage; ‘It takes work’ has become a clich√©, to be thrown around randomly; just try saying it at your next dinner party, if you want to observe an awkward silence. It’s definitely not something that people actually talk about, certainly not on live …

>”My apologies”

Many years ago, I learned the phrase, “My apologies,” from a colleague who seemed to know that the sincerity of her words are more important than any explanation she could offer. Sooooooooooo…..

My apologies for putting the blog on hold for the past 2 months. Many of you have asked about it, and missed it popping up in your inbox every Tuesday. The truth is, I have been working on certification as an Emotionally Focused Therapist, and it …

>When there are no words…

Around now, I generally write about getting through the holidays without throwing a can of Who-hash at your mother-in-law’s head… But in light of what happened in Newtown, such a rant seems misguided.

I can’t even speak as a therapist about this – the Mother Bear inside me is growling and protective. I draw my daughter close to feel her soft breath and rub my nose in her wispy hair. I hide from her my struggle to keep fear from …

>Comfort in the crazy…

As a child, who held you when you cried? Did it feel safe, comforting? Or was there something missing?

I believe that most parents are doing the best they can, with the resources they have. That said, it’s fairly common for folks to report that as kids, they weren’t held in a way that felt safe, or comforting; or even held at all… So where would you have learned how to give your partner comfort? Where would you have learned …